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Back in March, I gave a TEDx talk. I've never been so scared in my life. 

The night of the rehearsals I didn't want to go in the building. I asked my husband if he'd take me home.

The day of the event, I wanted to puke. 

It's the first time I've taken the stage in front of hundreds of people with no notes or a PowerPoint to keep me on track.

I often talk about getting comfortable with getting uncomfortable, and to be honest, I didn't like it.

Up until minutes before I took the stage, I paced the halls going over my talk. At times, my mind totally went blank, and a talk I'd spent months on, disappeared into the thin air. 

Panic, doubt and fear crept into my mind.

But one thing is for certain, if I hadn't walked out onto that stage, I would have regretted it the rest of my life.

So friends, after seven months, my TEDx video is officially posted!

Please watch and share with friends. 

Thanks so much for your support!

Blessings,

Stephanie

Inspirational Speaker and Award-Winning Author of “The Giving Challenge: 40 Days to a More Generous Life”

Do you get overwhelmed thinking about all you have to do in the upcoming week, month, or even the remainder of the year? I know I do.

I wear myself out scrolling through my calendar and looking at all my upcoming travel, events, and projects. And in the past, this is where I'd shut down. Instead of spending my time wisely and take actions to ensure I'm prepared and meet deadlines, I'd plop my butt in a chair and veg out–numbing my feelings with sugar. 

Repeatedly, I've seen people give up on amazing opportunities because looking at the end, and then thinking about all the work it would take to get there seemed like an impossible mountain to climb.

Speaking of mountains, have you ever climbed one? Several years ago, my mom and I skidded down Sleeping Bear Dunes in the sand, only to get to the bottom, and look and up and be nearly paralyzed at the climb ahead.

Sleeping Bear Dunes, is in the top ten for number of rescues at a National Park, and at the top, there's a sign that states, "Enjoy the view from here. Don't risk injury and rescue fees by going down-or the two hours it may take to climb back up!"

Why do so many people quit, when just moments earlier they were excited to climb the mammoth dune? 

Because anytime we discover something new and shiny, we get a burst of energy that gets us started. But as we start to climb, muscles ache and it's painful. What we originally thought was going to be fun, has been littered with hurdles one didn't expect.

That's how the dune was for me. Instead of looking up at all I had to climb, I put my head down and took one step at a time. And in under thirty minutes, I'd reached the top.

If you are looking at the week, month, or year ahead, and you are wondering, how will I ever get everything done?

Take these steps:

  1. Make a list of all you must do. 
  2. Prioritize what needs to get done today. 
  3. Remove frivolous time wasters. 
  4. And start on one item, completing that task and moving on to the next.  
  5. Once that day is over, start all over. 

I've lived by this method for years and it's how I work a full time job, write books, speak around the country, coach clients, and yes, take time for myself to have a little fun!

Blessings,

Stephanie

Inspirational Speaker and Award-Winning Author of "The Giving Challenge: 40 Days to a More Generous Life"

In January 2016, I met Don and he gave me a gift, that touched me so much, I wrote about it in my book, The Giving Challenge

In short, I was in Washington, DC on business, hired Don to drive me to the airport, and on the way,  I realized I had no cash, only a credit card to pay him. At the time, he only took cash. I said a little prayer, and when we got to the airport, without knowing I didn't have a way to pay, he told me the ride was on him, a gift he wanted to give me.  

In awe that God had answered my prayer, I snapped a picture, as I never wanted to forget Don and the moment, a gift connected me to a stranger.

After publishing The Giving Challenge, I've been on a mission to meet Don again, tell him the story and give him a copy of my book, where I share our story.  I'd tried to hire him in the past, but he was booked.

Finally, this past week, success!  Oh friends, when we arrived at the hotel to drop me off, I shared with Don about our former meeting, his gift, and showed him his story in my book. His reaction would have been a viral video moment, but with no video recording, I soaked in the moment, as Don removed his glasses and wiped the tears from his eyes.  

We hopped out of his vehicle, hugged, snapped another picture, and scheduled a time for him to pick me up the next day to get me to the airport.

I'm confident it wasn't a coincidence that I met Don or that he gave me a gift. I know God spoke to him that day, Don listened, and for reasons, yet unknown, our paths were meant to cross.  

Over and over on my giving journey, I'd feel God nudge me to help someone, and 100% of the time, even many times uncomfortable, the stranger I asked if they needed help did. I'm not perfect, and I miss opportunities to give, but I've learned that many times, we can be an angel on earth, helping those in need, and sometimes it's a gift from a stranger, in the form of a free ride.

Blessings,

Stephanie

Inspirational Speaker and Award-Winning Author of "The Giving Challenge: 40 Days to a More Generous Life"


I'm a sugaraholic. Is that even a word? If not, add it to the Webster's dictionary, as I know many people that would join in me a Sugaraholic Anonymous group.  Three weeks ago, my friend Kelsey texted me and asked if I wanted to give up sugar with her. Initially I said no, because I was headed to San Jose for a Coaching Summit. I knew they'd have yummy sweets and I didn't want to miss out. But I slept on the request and the next morning I woke up and realized, I'm always going to have travels. I'm booked out traveling and attending events until mid-November and then the holiday season begins. The next day, I sent her a text, "I'm in!"  

It's been three weeks with no refined sugar, I'm still eating a fruit or two each day, but otherwise, no chocolate, cupcakes, pie or cheesecake. Boo!  Within days, my aches and pains cleaned up. Here I am three weeks later, and I'm sleeping better, more energy, no cravings, and I've lost five pounds. 

If you are struggling with sugar, join me in cutting the sugar, and start the path to a healthier life.

Blessings,

Stephanie

Inspirational Speaker and Award-Winning Author of

“The Giving Challenge: 40 Days to a More Generous Life”

Years ago, in an annual review with my boss, she didn't have any constructive criticism for my work performance, but she did have a personal recommendation.  

Stop apologizing.

When she brought up the topic, I was a bit stunned. As she gave me examples, I could see her point.  

For example, I might be out of the office and my response to an email or a phone call would be delay and I would begin my response, "I'm sorry it's taken me a little longer to get back to you."

She said, "There is no need to apologize. You were out of the office.  Only apologize for actions that really need apologizing, like you make a mistake, then your apology carries more weight."

Over the years, I've worked hard to eliminate, I'm sorry...out of my vocabulary, unless it's really needed. For example, if I don't immediately respond to a text, I don't start out my text, "I'm sorry it took me so long to get back to you."  

People may expect an immediate response, but if I'm timely, especially given my extremely packed schedule, there is no reason to apologize. 

Even though her advice was given years ago, apologizing is still a habit I work to break. I'll often start an email with an apology, and then I'll consciously ask, "Why am I apologizing?"  Usually there is no need for the apology and I'll delete my words, address and respond to the email. 

Over the next week, take some time to evaluate your words. Do you apologize too much?

Blessings,

Stephanie

Inspirational Speaker and Award-Winning Author of “The Giving Challenge: 40 Days to a More Generous Life”

Note: I wrote this blog because I've missed sending out the last two Giving Gal Gazettes. At first I wanted to apologize to my following, but being fully transparent, it's not that I didn't want to send out my newsletter, it's that I've been totally buried with my day job, working on speaking proposals, editing a 65,000 word book, meeting with coaching clients, working on my own book, traveling and oh yeah...taking a little time to give to myself.  As I thought about it, I had nothing to apologize for and I'm hopeful, you were okay with the break, and happy to receive this edition in your inbox. Thanks for your continued support, as I pursue my big dreams and help others do the same!

I learned the hard way on how to give this last challenge. If I'm being honest I should have started the giving challenge here with "find a way to give to yourself."

We tend to give, give, give to others but never take time to give to ourselves?

When I was on my Giving journey, giving a gift every day for 522, when I missed a day I was both devastated and relieved.

Why?

I was tired! What I realized is, that if I want to serve and pour into others, I myself, must be healthy, both mentally and physically. Be rested, both body and soul. I could be happy for what I'm giving but also in my own life.

After my 522-day journey, I took a break to rejuvenate and I loved learning and finding new ways to incorporated ways to give to myself regularly.

When I picked back up on my daily giving, I incorporated self-care because when we take care of ourselves, I've found, we can give more to others. An idea that many have a hard time believing and putting into action. I get it! I've been there.

I learned from my mistakes and now each week I find ways to unplug and fill up my tank.

Here are some of my favorite ways…
1. Reading a good book. (Currently, a Long Way Home, by Charles Martin.)
2. Going for a hike.
3. Soaking in a bubble bath.
4. Watching a movie.
5. Napping

As I reflect on the last fourteen days, I think I should have started by having you fill your cup up first, so you could plow through the fourteen days. I'm sorry I didn't. But with that said, congratulations for participating in the "Summer" Giving Challenge.

Now go out, celebrate and find a way to give to yourself.

Happy Giving,

Stephanie

 
Day 14 Giving Challenge: Find a way to give to yourself

Did you know... Many women feel guilty about taking time for themselves. I wish I had the reference, but I heard a research study on the radio, and I swear the show's host said, a recent study found that 63% surveyed felt guilty for taking time for self-care. What? Let's not feel guilty about giving to ourselves and living the best life we can! P.S. Easier said than done. But let's work on making progress and getting rid of guilt. 

Chat with your Children:  One in eight children suffer from anxiety.  There are many factors that are contributing to the high rates of anxiety in children and too much to dig into here. But in reading various articles, there are things we can do to help children with anxiety, and I think they align nicely to giving to yourself. (1) Work to find time for children to relax each day, without a screen. Maybe helping with dinner, playing a game, or snuggling up with a book; and (2) Get outside and play.

Bonus Story: Several years ago, I took hot yoga. What an experience! Here are five things I learned from the experience.

Each year the local high school National Honors society members, the Boys Scouts, and even your local letter carrier, go door to door and collect food for the local food pantry. I love the idea of communities coming together, one home at a time, to feed those in need and fill the bellies of their neighbors.
I'm grateful that at a moment's notice I can fill a couple of bags of non-perishable foods, as I always stock up on canned goods at either Costco or when the grocery store is having a sale.


You can help your local food pantry in four easy steps:

  1. Locate your community food pantry.
  2. Make a list of most needed items.
  3. Either clean out your pantry or pick up items the next time you are at the store. Give what you can afford. Even if it's one canned good, that item, compounded with the donations of others makes a big impact.
  4. Drop off the items!

I love this giving challenge because it's simple and doesn't take much time. Also, if you want to make a bigger impact, add a few items every time you go to the grocery store. Could you imagine the effect of making a weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly donation to our food pantry would have on our communities? ‘


What items will you donate?


Happy Giving,
Stephanie


P.S. If you choose to donate foods from your pantry, please don't donate expired food. I know this seems like common sense, but every time I volunteer at a food drive or pantry, I'm amazed at how many people donate expired food.

Day 13 Giving Challenge: Donate nonperishable items to your local food pantry.

Did you know... 15 million households in the United States suffer from food insecurity, which means the people who live in these households are often hungry.

Chat with your Children: There may be children in your child's classroom that doesn't have enough food. Chat with your child on how you can feed children in need in their school. Maybe it's paying for a child's lunch, adding extra snacks to their book bag, or even sharing their lunch. The children who often go hungry, may also be the children who need a friend to sit with at lunch.  If your child sees another child sitting alone, teach them ways to befriend someone sitting alone at lunch, whether it's joining a lonely child, or asking them to sit at their table. These acts of kindness can change the course of a child's life. 

Bonus Story: Giving Gal is doing her part to feed the hungry. We partner with Rice Bowls, to feed children in orphanages. For every copy of The Giving Challenge sold, we donate three meals to a child in need. In two years, with a generous corporate match, we've provided over 24,000 meals to children in need. I've started handing out rice bowls at my speaking engagements, so the audience can get involved in giving their change. Want a rice bowl? You can order one here.

What's your great talent? You know, the activity you love to do and if you could do it all day long, that's what you'd choose?

Sometimes the older the we get, life gets busy and our talents get buried at the bottom of a plastic container that's stored under the basement stairs. If we are lucky, we pull it out for a holiday and then we don't see it for another year. 

Or maybe your talent is something you love, but you don't think you're "good enough" to share with the world. You may think, "What if I embarrass myself? I should be able to take a leap of faith, but my faith is fleeting."

I understand where you are coming from. I loved to bake, especially cupcakes, but my decorating skills were questionable at best.

But I baked anyway and gave away my ugly cupcakes.  

Then one day I asked a friend, who decorated beautiful cupcakes, to teach me how to make presentable cupcakes.

She showed up at my house, shared her talent with me, and within a few hours I learned how to decorate a cupcake I was no longer embarrassed to give away.

Do you have a talent you can showcase and share with others?

  • Can you sew? Maybe a friend needs a new dress hemmed.
  • Are you crafty? Maybe an event planner could use your craftiness to make decorations.
  • Are you good with money? Maybe you can help a newly married couple create a budget.
  • Do your friends rave about your organized home? Call a friend who is always stressed about disorganization and schedule a date to help her out.

I'm a firm believer that our talents were meant to be shared.

Take a minute to jot down your talent and think about who you can help. Reach out to the person you jotted down and offer your assistance. If they accept, schedule time on the calendar to share your talent!

If you can't think of anyone that needs your talent, post on social media, "Any of my friend's need help with (fill in the blank)?" 

What talent will you share?

Happy Giving,

Stephanie

Day 12 Giving Challenge: Share your talent to help someone.

Did you know... that many times our talents aren't rewarded until later life? Look at the famous actor, such as Morgan Freeman. He didn't get his big break until age 50! Or what about Colonel Sanders, owner of KFC? He didn't open his first franchise until age 62. Or my favorite, J.K. Rowling, who lived in poverty and it wasn't until age 32 that she published the Harry Potter series.  You are never to young, or old, to share your talent with others.

Chat with your Children: Have you seen the movie, A Star is Born, staring Lady Gaga? Over the course of the promotion of the movie, I watched several of her interviews. She shared how she was bullied in school for singing and acting. Lucky for us, she didn't let the bullying squash her talents. I think there are two great conversations that can be had with children around the topic of talents. The first, is encouraging them to do what they love. Find ways to work together to help them nurture a passion. The second is, teaching them how to encourage others when it comes to recognizing talents in their friends. Maybe your child loves sports, how can the cheer on their friends who love band or drama? We should never be tearing down or making fun of someone for sharing their talents. We don't want to be the reason as child puts their talent in a box under the basement stairs.

Bonus Story: A day before our dog, Boss, passed away, our friend came over and gave us a great gift. I share how our talents can impact others. I will cherish the gift she gave us forever.

One of the biggest lessons I've learned on my giving journey is that if I take time to look around, I've noticed there are opportunities to give everywhere.  

For instance, have you ever been in line at the grocery store with one item and the person in front of you has a full cart?

That happened to me at Walmart and a sweet lady turned around and said, "Go ahead of me, you look to be in a hurry."

What a simple gift she gave me, but totally made my day. I love when I receive these types of gifts because I get to feel how good something so small, especially from a stranger, makes the receiver feel.

Even though I was in a hurry, I asked if I could snap a picture to share with my community. She was humble, and I had to give her a little nudge, as I love documenting giving moments. It's a reminder there are good people in the world.

Next time you are in line, let someone go in front of you.

Happy Giving,

Stephanie

Day 11 Giving Challenge: As you are out an about today, look for small opportunities to give. Maybe it's letting someone go ahead of you in line, holding a door for someone with their arms full, or helping someone reach an item on a shelf. 

Did you know... kindness to strangers is good for your brain? Multiple research studies find that giving to others releases oxytocin, which can help strengthen the bond between people and building community. 

Chat with your Children: One of the simple ways you can teach your child about kindness, is to have them look for opportunities to hold the door open for people. It costs you and them, little time and no money. The action teaches a habit, that no matter their age, can turn into a lifestyle, they can carry through their life, that may make someone else smile. And just like we get a "helpers high" when we give to others, they will also!

Bonus Story: Throughout the years, some of the people that have had the biggest impact on me and my giving has been my mom and the mom of friends.

Do you remember ordering books from scholastic? I loved flipping through the order form and picking out books to purchase.

What I never thought about, is there are children who can't afford to order from the incredible program that gets books in the hands of children. 

One of my best childhood friends, and now teacher, posted on Facebook "I send the order form home each month and a few students place orders. For many kids, it is a disappointment of not being able to order books.  Wouldn't it be awesome for every student to get a book each month?"

Scholastic has a $1 book for each month and my friend asked if her friends would sponsor a child, $10 for the school year, so every child in her class could get one book a month. 

Within a couple of days, her friends stepped up and the entire class was sponsored. At the end of the school year I received a letter from the student I'd sponsored, and tears filled my eyes, as a simple $10 had such an impact on a child's life.  

Your challenge? Donate a children's book to a Little Free Library (LFL) in your community. Don't know if there is an LFL in your community? Check out the map here.

Snap a picture of the book you donated and text it to me at 219-707-9545. I'd love to know what our community donated!

Don't have a Little Free Library? Maybe donate a book to a school or library.  

Happy Reading,

Stephanie

Day 10 Giving Challenge: Donate Your Favorite Children's Book to a Little Free Library, school or local library

Did you know... Academically, children growing up in homes without books are on average three years behind children in homes with lots of books, even when controlled for other key factors. (M.D.R Evans et al., Research in Social Stratification and Mobility, June 2010)

One of the most successful ways to improve the reading achievement of children is to increase their access to books, especially at home. But 61% of low-income families do not have any age-appropriate books for their kids at home.

Chat with your Children: How are you incorporating reading into you household? The ability to read is a gift we should never waste. According to Statistic Brain, there are 774 million people around the world that can't read. We are fortunate in this country, that every child has access to an education and libraries filled with books. Chat with your child about the books they enjoy and discuss how you can start a daily reading routine, if you aren't already. And then, when a book has been read, find a way to give it away, giving another child an opportunity to receive and read a book.Bonus Story: Each year I attend a writer's conference to improve my craft. This year, I took a children's book course, and had the opportunity to meet and work with some incredible children's book writers. I can't wait for Lisa's book to come out, so I can share it with my community!