May 2021


This past week I gave a presentation, and honestly, when I finished, I didn't know how I performed. But, I had a lot of doubt. 

Within moments of finishing, someone from the audience texted me, "That went really well! Nice job!"


I was grateful for the immediate feedback. 

Later, when I chatted with my bff, she said, "You are always so much harder on yourself. You always doubt how well you do when you always do great!"

She was right. 

Why do we doubt?

Sometimes we lack confidence in the work we are doing, but other times I think it has to do with perfectionist tendencies. I know for me, when I'm walking into new territory, I think of all the things that someone may or may not like. So I focus on constructive criticism vs. all the positive feedback. 

Next time you make a big presentation, give a sales pitch, interview for a new job, or pursue a new goal, dig a hole and dump doubt in it. 

And a gift we can give others is to ensure we provide positive feedback and any constructive criticism. So let's always strive to lift people up instead of tearing them down.



Inspirational Speaker and Award-Winning Author of "The Giving Challenge: 40 Days to a More Generous Life" and “The Gratitude Challenge: 41 Days to a Happier, Healthier, & More Content Life”

This morning as I brushed my teeth, the phrase, "When God moves, do you?" popped into my head.

Excellent question!

Last week an influencer contacted me about working on a collaborative project. Yikes! I've never done what they want me to do. Out of fear, the unknown, lack of ability, it would have been easy for me to say, "Thanks for thinking I could tackle this project, but no thanks."

But in our conversation, I felt God moving. So I tentatively committed but then spent the weekend in prayer, consulting with trusted advisors, and researching. 

As I read through a book on the topic, fear turned to excitement. And then the writer said, "It's a gift."

Tears welled up in my eyes; God gave me the answer I needed to move forward through that one-word gift. 

Gift is my word. I love it. It's a word I live by every day. I'm a daily gift giver!

Don't get me wrong; I still have doubts. And to date, this will be the biggest project I've embarked upon, but as my husband so eloquently stated, "Stephanie, this is one of those moments you don't want to look back on and wonder what would have happened if you would have taken on this project. Have no regrets."

I knew I married that guy for a reason! He's a man of few words, but when he speaks, I better listen, as it's going to be good. 

So today, friend, if you see God moving in your life, but what he has laid at your feet seems too big and too scary, go to Him in prayer and take the first step of faith. What I've discovered over and over again is that when God moves, and then I move, a whole new world I never could have dreamed for myself opens up. But He requires our obedience and trust. As the old hymnal by John H. Sammis goes, "Trust and obey, for there is no other way to be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey."



Inspirational Speaker and Award-Winning Author of “The Giving Challenge: 40 Days to a More Generous Life” and "The Gratitude Challenge: 41 Days to a Happier, Healthier, & More Content Life"

Happy May! I typically don’t share many insights into my life as a police wife, but something happened this weekend and I shared what it’s like to live the police wife life. At the end of the day, I’m always so grateful for our first responders. May is the month we celebrate National Police Week and Peace Officer’s Memorial Day. Please time time this month to thank the police officers in your community.

Last night we went to a retirement party for a state trooper.

As his wife spoke, I couldn't imagine the emotions she felt.

He made it.

He survived.

We have four more years until my husband hits 25 years and can retire. I never want to waste time away, but I'm tired of this police life.

I'm tired of the media.

The Monday morning quarterbacks.

The liars and haters.

I'm scared everyday that my husband, who has had an impeccable career, might need to make a split second decision, do everything right, and still lose everything we've worked for and built.

This year I've asked him on more than one occasion to retire early.

To lose part of his pension and other benefits because the risk is too great.

And yet he is unwavering to the oath and commitment he made.

And last night was no different.

As we drove home from the party, at 9:00pm, after a full day of working in his woodshop, on this day "off", he answered his dang work phone.

I hear him utter the phrases I've heard tens of times over the years, "I need to drop off Stephanie, change, and then I'll be enroute."

And that's exactly what he did.

We don't own our schedule.

We don't have the luxury of coming home from a long day and chilling.

He always answers the call.

I use to wait up and worry. I stay up as long as I can, say a prayer, and give him to God.

He rolled into bed at 3:30am. I knew what he dealt with couldn't be good as he had a fitful night sleep. No one will ever know what our officers see when they close their eyes.

Horrific scenes beyond comprehension.

I don't share much about our police life because I choose to focus on giving, gratitude, goals, and my faith.

But every once in a while I think it's good for wives to share our life to counter all the lies and negativity from the media and those who know nothing about law enforcement and the lives we live.

Today, like every day, I'm grateful for the men and women of law enforcement.



Inspirational Speaker and Award-Winning Author of “The Giving Challenge: 40 Days to a More Generous Life” and "The Gratitude Challenge: 41 Days to a Happier, Healthier, & More Content Life"