Years ago, in an annual review with my boss, she didn't have any constructive criticism for my work performance, but she did have a personal recommendation.
When she brought up the topic, I was a bit stunned. As she gave me examples, I could see her point.
For example, I might be out of the office and my response to an email or a phone call would be delay and I would begin my response, "I'm sorry it's taken me a little longer to get back to you."
She said, "There is no need to apologize. You were out of the office. Only apologize for actions that really need apologizing, like you make a mistake, then your apology carries more weight."
Over the years, I've worked hard to eliminate, I'm sorry...out of my vocabulary, unless it's really needed. For example, if I don't immediately respond to a text, I don't start out my text, "I'm sorry it took me so long to get back to you."
People may expect an immediate response, but if I'm timely, especially given my extremely packed schedule, there is no reason to apologize.
Even though her advice was given years ago, apologizing is still a habit I work to break. I'll often start an email with an apology, and then I'll consciously ask, "Why am I apologizing?" Usually there is no need for the apology and I'll delete my words, address and respond to the email.
Over the next week, take some time to evaluate your words. Do you apologize too much?
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